Am I out of sync?

Ok, my niece wrote me that she was on her way (2 hours outside the city) to tell her son that his bio dad had passed away. She was unsure as to if and

when she should tell her other son.

Both boys were basically abandoned by this man years ago. He owed $100,000 in back child support and so chose to basically sell them to their

stepdad Ben who adopted them. The deal was, if they would write off the

debt, he would sign over the boys.

He was a really messed up person and was very immature in that it was

all about him. Several domestic incidents and years of his disfunctional parenting finally had my niece divorcing him. He has not been in touch

with any of them for 2 or 3 years.

I wrote my niece back and told her I didn't see the drama here, why not

just call Zach and let him and Reggie know. This man doesn't deserve

any kind of acknowledgement. Ben was their dad, he has been there

through all of their years growing up. Ed only showed up when he wanted

to harrass my niece or the boys. He was an abuser who physically and

mentally messed with Reggie's emotions all the time. Basically ignoring

Zach completely.

They have been divorced for over 20 years and their only contact has

been Ed's phone calls harrassing them about having to pay child support or not paying it.

I did tell her if she was sorry, I was sorry for her. Meaning that I felt bad

that she would still have any kind of guilt or feelings about this man.

So, am I an unfeeling hard hearted person? I don't know...maybe a realist.